How to achieve a quality love relationship

To love someone is actually questioning ourselves, our inner strength and faith, how much we are able to give ourselves to another, and more importantly, how willing we are to change. Every novelty in life means a certain change, including an emotional connection. Love is not static, it is hyperactive, it is a skilled trader: as much as you invest and give, you will get as much back.

When two people's relationships have reached a stage of tension and discontent, then they will need to stop and ask themselves where the problem is? It is true that it takes two for love as well as for quarrel, but you must not use this as an argument to justify your mistakes. As soon as we start approaching without self-criticism, convinced that we are good and correct and the other side is not, know immediately that you have become the biggest problem.

Although I always emphasize that love has three foundations: open communication, understanding, and accepting your partner as he is, without the intention of changing him, it often happens that we take these guidelines too lightly without thinking about their real meaning.


Open conversations

Communication is very important for a successful relationship, maybe even crucial, but also, a lot of pointless talking does more harm than good. The conversations must not be superficial, the depths of a certain closeness should be entered and opened. This is a serious problem for most people, especially for those who do not have enough confidence, so they are horrified by such communications, convinced that they will turn out to be weak, vulnerable and stupid. But in fact, they already are all of that. By discovering ourselves and communicating clearly, the only thing we can get out of it, is what we currently do not have - confidence. Open conversations strengthen the character, and evoke consciousness from narrow views and certainly bring relaxation in the long run. We must not allow ourselves to hide behind the ego, because only cowards are hiding there. Why be ashamed of yourself? As long as we do this, we will never take control of our lives.

Also, stay away from projections.

We often hear the statement, especially from women, when describing the qualities of a desirable man, the one they want as a partner, that he must be humorous. And do you know what kind of women this is? The ones who are not humorous themselves, and actually expect someone else to entertain them and make them laugh. Like a clown. A certain amount of humor is certainly desirable because laughter relaxes, brings serenity and optimism to the relationship, but if one thinks that humor will solve something crucial, they are wrong.

We are not all humorous, nor do we need to be. Paying attention and care greatly compensates for a person's lack of humor. Furthermore, experience has shown that men who turn everything into a joke are subconsciously afraid of getting attached, and humor serves them to avoid serious communication. The one where they reveal themselves and talk about themselves. Remember, who does not open up to you is not a silent person, but simply you are not interesting enough for him to want to do it.


Understanding yourself and the other

When the relationship starts, it should be depreciated. It is not advisable to simply let it all settle down, as this often solves nothing but deepens the crisis and creates resentment.

The rule is to be aware of the other person, their presence and thinking. We are all different, and that is great, but that is no barrier for developing one of the most beautiful human virtues - understanding. I want to emphasize that understanding is not justification for one's stupidity. And it should not be misused. Perhaps this is the best way to explain: the parent always loves his child, no matter what nonsense he does, but the parent loves only the child but not his stupidity. It's separate. In the same way, you should approach to the event of a crisis, which is caused by some stupidity of your partner. Also, no one likes being offended and verbally humiliated, so forget about that approach right away. Such an approach will certainly not solve anything, but it will do just the opposite - it will further complicate everything.

When solving a problem, then we should also look at it from the perspective of another person, and thus try to understand what actually happened and why. Also, forget the statement that this could never happen to you, because it is simply not true, and only demonstrates your ego and misunderstanding. We can make far greater mistakes than those we want to share moral and other life lessons with.

And what is most important is the compromise, which is based on the principle "it must not be either how i want it or how you want it, but we should find ourselves somewhere in between". We are both in this, it concerns us equally and it has an impact on our relationship and our shared lives. It's not you, it's not me, it's - us.




Accept the person as they are


The most common problem we make in a relationship is the desire to design a partner as we please. This clearly and loudly shows a lack of basic respect. Why do you think everything is right with you? What makes you so convinced that your style of dress, expression and behavior is the right one? After all, you fell in love with that person that you now want to change. Initially, you didn't mind anything about that person. So, the problem is not in your parter, but in you. Therefore, do not in any way treat your complexes and frustrations on others, as you will ruin your life.

The real and basic truth is that we all change when it suits us, and not because of others. A change in force is not a change but a source of frustration, which will sooner or later erupt and complicate everything. We all change through life, both physically and characterually, and it is simply a process that should not be exerted by force, but let it go in its own course. There is no better partner than the one who feels good in their own skin.

Who are the karmic partners

Throughout our lives we meet new people, some we get to know superficially and some more deeply, but each individual leaves some relative mark on us. Humans are, like everything around us, energy; therefore, each person has in his or her life persons who are appropriate for  them in a certain way, either characteristically, physically, by their fluid or yet repulsive to them. That is the essence of energy - attraction and repulsion.

But what about people who mean more to us than others, and who we rightly call special? I'm not referring to those classic falling in love here because love, like everything else, has its expiration date. Love like fire ignites us, burns us, then smokes and extinguishes. This probably happens as a result of the fact that every person is unstoppably changing psychologically and physically throughout life, and after a while we realize that we are no longer the same person a year or more ago. And accordingly, we have changed somewhat the perception of ourselves and the world around us. What suited us yesterday is probably not so important today. However, this should not scare or worry you as it is a completely normal sequence of events in everyone's life. After all, it is in the primal nature of man to always move on.


The soul in search of the soul

It is difficult to say whether or not there are karmic partners. Apart from birth and death, we cannot be absolutely sure of anything else. But this should never stop us from exploring and expanding our horizons. Also, it is important to know how to separate the grain from the weeds, meaning, the good from the bad. Today, we are literally overwhelmed with all sorts of philosophies, views and opinions, most of which are superficial and fictitious in order to please the masses. The best example is reincarnation. Everyone who allegedly dealt with this was in the past life some famous or rich person, few have had an average or poor life. And that is simply impossible. Reincarnation really does exist, and we see the best evidence in nature. A nature that literally dies and is reborn through the change of seasons. But somehow, I always get the feeling that wisdom ceases to be wisdom when everyone starts to deal with it, because a crowd of men will always make a foolishness out of wisdom.

Returning to the karmic partners topic; as I have already noted, it is in human nature that it constantly strives to go forward, and so our souls tend to the same. But unlike the body, which longs for material pleasures, the soul has only one goal - to connect with its soulmate and become complete.

The soul is universal and does not possess gender, nor does this definition mean anything to it. By entering the human, animal or plant body, the soul bestows upon it a life without which nothing grows or develops. For the soul, every new body is actually a new experience and realization. As a plant, it will experience a strong connection to the Earth and its energy. In the body of the animal, all senses will live intensely and so much knowledge will be absorbed, and in the body of a man it will realize the power of the mind.


Through all these indescribable odyssey, the soul will constantly strive for unification and harmony. Because, after all, we are not complete when we are alone, only a part of it is filled. The whole universe, including the Earth, is built on the principle of reciprocity; everything relies on one another and nothing can exist for itself. Since we are all energy, we all transform into one another or, to put it simply, nourish one another, starting with bacteria and beyond. So, in order for our physical body to exist, it must eat. But the soul does not need that kind of food but the pure, energetic one that we humans call love. And this is where we slowly reach our karmic partners. However, first of all, one must distinguish between what is fateful and what is karmic partner.


Human destiny as a mission

Everyone who lives, carries with them their destiny, and therefore, there are many people in his or her life, from parents, family, children, relatives, friends, lovers, mistresses, to husbands and wives. Because of the hormones and the natural desire to create a family and live like everyone around us, we marry, very often because of a passion for someone, or out of desperation not to grow old on our own, or we simply marry because of calculations. Whether we are driven by emotions or practical interest, marriage is formed. After a period of time, as many world statistics relentlessly show, most marriages break down and divorce. Let's understand each other - this is still a positive epilogue to the situation where partners are literally living with each other, waiting for their children to grow up, or secretly hoping for a spouse to die first, so that they become free to finally get on with their lives.

In fact, all of this is human fate or in other words, mission. With a person we can have a  mission to create children, to build a house with someone, to spend everything with someone, to make us happy or hurt us a lot. When that mission is fulfilled, then the meaning of our life together disappears and then we enter a vacuum. No love, no luck. We wait for some miracle, and we console ourselves and feed only hope. And the only thing that happens is that we become nervous, angry, dissatisfied, scared. Basically - unhappy.


A meeting after which nothing is the same anymore

The reason why the most people in the world are unhappy is because they never meet their karmic partners through life and never become complete. Despite all other fulfilling goals, such as having a successful career, their life until death is meaningless. Money is not important to the soul, but only love, and that is why nothing else can satisfy it. Such people either have a fair number of partners through life as they unwittingly search for the right person, or live alone.

When we meet our karmic partner then happens the so called bonding of souls. An indescribable sense of unification and peace. We are becoming complete. Sometimes it can happen that one partner dies after a while (or many years) but the one who remains to live, despite the loss, is not unhappy because he is still living in harmony. There are many such examples, and perhaps one of the most famous is Josipa Lisac and Karlo Metikos.

Finally, it should be emphasized that there is no method by which we can detect a karmic partner. Him or her our soul literally "feels" as the human mind feels the body. Among some esoteric circles, it is thought that persons with natal horoscope Moon in Pisces, because of their more pronounced sensibility and empathy, can most easily recognize a soul mate.

Other interesting points are that it is absolutely wrong to think that we have to be madly in love with karmic partners and have a fantastic sexual relationship. Remember that the soul does not know gender. That is why karmic partners can be our parents, children, spouses, friends, relatives or even someone you saw in a picture and who lives on another continent. Someone you can criticize, judge, love, even hate for a while, avoid, but you can never be indifferent, and whose happiness is as important to you as your own. Someone you've been attached to with your heart and thoughts all your life, or at least from the moment you met him. Agatha Christie expressed herself very well on the subject when she wrote a sentence in one of her novels:" It was one of those moments when you know that nothing will ever be the same again."

Our faces - we're not as good as we think​

Today, in the myriad of psychological manuals, so-called popular psychology, and all kinds of media coverage, we are literally in the middle of a mix of everything. Everyone advises and recommends something, but most of these suggestions, although probably well-intentioned, can greatly complicate one's life if misunderstood and applied. People generally understand everything the way it suits them.

In popular psychology as well as in religion, one is literally forced to be something that is unnatural and therefore impossible. We are dualistic beings, with the same propensity for good and evil, and we cannot be constantly good, cheerful and positive. Also, we cannot constantly tell ourselves how beautiful and successful we are, or that we keep repeating various nonsense, and the universe, like the spirit from the magic lamp, will hear and fulfill our desires. But it won't, because none of this is realistic and possible and nothing can work that way. Life is far from fantasy, it is fundamentally changeable, we all have good and bad stages, periods and years. One day we can be in a good mood, and tomorrow in a bad mood.

Nothing is exclusively black and white, but mostly gray. No one is absolutely good or absolutely bad. Since ancient times, philosophers and sages have said that in every good there is at least one grain of evil and vice versa. We are all just people with many flaws and virtues, capable of great nobility and great cruelty. And most importantly - we are all originals. There are no two identical people in the world. Even the twins, who are often physically completely identical, characteristically differ from one another. Therefore, everyone should seek their own path and way of life, and not live according to someone else's directions.

As a young boy, I heard from an old woman that every man has three paths in front of him: the path of good, the path of evil, and the third path that we design for ourselves. I think most of us choose this last one because it suits us best. The first two are immensely difficult and require too much effort from us, whether we are extremely good or bad, and each leads to suffering and eventual downfall.


Life like a fairy tale and a soap opera

None of us is the epicenter of the world, and the world does not revolve around us and because of us. You have noticed that when a celebrity dies, who has influenced millions of people with his/her talent, life goes on for everyone, and no one decides to stop anything because of their death, let alone because of us, the anonymous men.

Therefore, be very careful in interpreting those suggestions that you should put yourself first, and be egotistical, and let others obey you and your will. Try telling your boss at work something like this; let's say you will be half an hour late for work every day because you don't want stress. Or try telling your family to start taking care of themselves from now on, because you've been reading some book, and finally realized that you are a priceless gift under this sky. Their reaction will bring you down to earth quickly.

We must admit that it is very nice when someone through some text empowers you and raises your ego, but you do not live in a fairy tale. There is a completely different world out there that requires a lot of tolerance, flexibility, common sense and cooperation from us. We cannot do without each other and we actually do depend on each other, therefore we must all cultivate tolerance and understanding. This is what these manuals will not suggest, because supposedly each of us deserves only the best. There are awful monsters all around us, but only we are angels. Doesn't that remind you of all fairy tales and soap operas? The similarity is too great to ignore. But of course it is absurd to say that one should not love oneself, but that love must be expressed in a healthy and realistic way. Not like self-obsession.


Stop playing the victim

There are no perfect people, perfect relationships, partners or perfect lives. Everything is subject to constant change and thus an uncertain future. The most important thing throughout life is to step out of the role of victim and take responsibility. When you do this, no matter how old you are, know that you are finally grown and mature.

Blaming parents, children, partners, friends or the state for their own problems is a vicious cycle of frustration and bitterness. As long as you act as a victim and accuse others for your own recklessness and incompetence, you are in fact running away from responsibility and never taking control of your life. And this is because we consider ourselves to be a very good person, who helped everyone, did no harm to anyone, and others were unjust and ungrateful to us and did not appreciate or respect us. In fact, it only hurts us that others did not behave the way we wanted them to, and our ego cannot tolerate that.

There are still layers of human hypocrisy emerging here. Most of us help others solely for our own personal interest, there is no real benevolence here. And then when these individuals do not reciprocate to us as we expect them to, our ego  goes wild. Therefore, it is not true helping, and it should not be considered as such. When we help someone wholeheartedly, we only do it because it makes us happy and satisfied. We do not expect anything in return, not even from God, because to help someone is a gift in itself. If we love someone then we love him as he is, with all his faults and virtues, because when it comes to love, there is no blackmail and conditioning.

Getting involved with a taken person, consciously giving money to a person who is known for not repaying debt, overeating, living messy, gossiping, stealing, enduring abuse and so much more, is only our choice and we have no right to blame anyone. No one put a gun to our forehead and said we have to do something. Things that are done under duress are certainly not our choice and we are not to blame, but we must take responsibility for everything else. As soon as we do this and point the finger of guilt at ourselves, sadness, anger and resentment will disappear. Let's embrace reality and live wiser.


Moderation is the key to everything

The only advice I will give you is the universal one and certainly the most realistic one - be moderate. Nurture moderation in everything without overdoing it in any segment of life. Whatever is exaggerated whether it is love, food, sex, career, learning, religion, or something else, it necessarily translates into a serious disorder and a mental or physical illness.
Man exists on the basis of moderation. Heartbeat, pulse rate, breathing rhythm, all made to work in a uniform rhythm of balance and harmony. As soon as any of it accelerates or slows down we have a serious problem.
Love, hate, surrender, take, but always in moderation, without exaggeration. That is the essence of man, we must not ignore our essence and the truth. Stand in front of the mirror more often and be brutally honest, look at any imperfections on yourself and admit that you do not have the right to criticize anyone else afterwards. We are no better or worse than other people, just be who you are, don't be ashamed of yourself, and don't try to act, behave and look like someone else. As soon as you get to know yourself, your virtues and your flaws, you will become more moderate and the quality of your life will improve.

Mistični put zmije

Bosanski horoskop ima drevnu šamanističku pozadinu jer obuhvata sav živi svijet koji postoji na Zemlji (ljude, životinje, drveće i biljke), a koje prožima mistični put zmije, zapravo prati njenu spiritualnu transformaciju u zmaja, mitsku silu koja simbolizira uskrsnuće i novi život. Po vjerovanju  naših predaka prvi Ilir je nastao od zmije te upravo zbog toga zmija simbolizira početak odnosno prvi znak. Njen povlašteni položaj potvrđuje i predaja bosanskih Bogumila, sljedbenika arijanskog kršćanstva, po kojoj je zmija stvorena na 40 godina prije stvaranja prvog čovjeka. Zmija u svom vijugavom putu kroz svaki naredni znak kruga sudbine utjelovljuje neuništivo sjeme života koje evolucijom poprima drugačije oblike te tako stiče svijest ili znanje o postojanju. Ovo sjeme života predstavlja univerzalnu mudrost koja je zapravo srž duše, božanske manifestacije.


Lični broj


Bosanski horoskop je vrlo kompatibilan sa numerologijom i tu se ova dva divinacijska  sistema savršeno prožimaju i nadopunjuju. Na taj način se stiče vrlo precizan uvid u karakteristike nekog pojedinačnog znaka te osoba rođenih u periodu dok on traje. Ovakav  pristup se pokazao uspješnim pošto podrobnije  rasvjetljava karakteristike nekog pojedinca što u konačnici doprinosi da se bolje razumije ali i odredi njegova sudbina.

Tajna se krije u ličnom broju kojeg posjeduje svako od nas a on se dobija tako da se sabere datum rođenja i svede na jednocifren broj. Slijedi primjer osobe rođene u znaku Ratnika čiji je datum rođenja: 12.03.1980. Navedeni datum se ovako sabira: 1+2+3+1+9+8 = 24/6.

Ovo su neki generalni primjeri i objašnjenja za pojedine lične brojeve i znakove:

Osobe rođene u znaku Žabe, Goluba i Babe sa ličnim brojem 6 su radoholičari, marljivi te karijeristi.

Osobe rođene u znaku Zmije, Žabe i Zviždenjaka, naročito žene, sa ličnim brojem 5 veoma su ljubomorne i posesivne, ali isto tako i spremne da se nesebično daju partneru i žrtvuju.

Osobe rođene u znaku Zmije i Zviždenjaka sa ličnim brojem 1 uglavnom su lijepe vanjštine. No, skoro uvijek, imaju problem sa egom, tvrdoglavošću ali i psihom.

Osobe rođene u znaku Sedefila, Lastavice, Zviždenjaka i Zmije sa ličnim brojevima 1, 3 i 8 najviše su podložne uticaju crne magije, ili generalno negativne energije, te među njima ima najviše žrtvi navedenoga.

Zmija, a posebno Lastavica, imaju naviku da lako daju obećanja ali ih često ne ispunjavaju. Slično je i sa Ratnikom. Sa ova tri znaka treba oprezno ulaziti u poslovne dogovore.

Did i Žaba su znaci osoba koje će vam sigurno pomoći u nevolji ili nekom problemu. Poznati su po tome.

U vrijeme dok vladaju Baba i Did oglašava se kukavica koja i na simboličan način ima veze sa starim ljudima sklonim stalnom kukanju i žaljenju. No, kukavica je tajanstvena i mistična ptica kroz koju progovaraju duhovi mrtvih predaka. U periodu oglašavaja kukavice, dok traje vladavina Babe i Dida, treba moliti za mrtve pretke i paliti svijeće za njihov mir. I kako bi vam pomogli u narednom periodu, naročito u nekim rizičnim situacijama.

Nightingale of a broken heart

George Michael was unique in his appearance, not only on the British music scene but also worldwide. A popstar with a stunning voice, a charismatic look and a very interesting personality.

Most people often wonder why they were born and what their life mission is, but they never get the answer. However, there are people like George Michael, whose answer to this dilemma has always been clear. He was born to sing, amaze and inspire millions of people with his appearance. It was his destiny, the karmic task he accomplished in the best possible way, and moved on. Therefore, he was, without exaggeration, one of the highest quality vocals on the world stage.

George Michael was born on June 25, 1963, in the first lunar phase, the fifth day of the young moon, in a year marked by 13 full moons and 12 young moons. What is interesting in interpreting this data is that persons born in a year with 13 full moons are more prone to vice and internal confusion than the rest.

In the Bosnian horoscope, George was born in the sign of Linden and what is characteristic for the man of this sign is a great emotionality, a strong need to be accepted and a sensitive nature. In public, he always likes to present himself as a strong personality in order to conceal his gentle side. He always expects his partner to give him a lot of attention, even initiative, to which he doubles as he is generous in nature. George Michael was a typical representative of this character who always tried to focus on what he was doing, whether it was conversation or lifestyle, and sought control to keep as much detail about himself as possible in the realm of private and intimate.

Number 5 belongs to George according to numerology. It is a symbol of people who love change and do not come to terms with everyday life and established norms. In addition, the people of this number are resourceful and creative. His numerological chart indicates great emotionality and connection with his family. But he was prone to indecision and often took a long time to make a decision or move in some direction. While in his twenties he had quite a lot of energy, in his thirties, (from the age of 35), he suddenly disappeared, and then his impasse followed: he had neither the will nor the strength to realize new business successes, and was increasingly depressed and suffering from psychological crises.

According to the numerological chart, his most difficult life span begins at 49, culminating in his death at 53. Lung and heart health problems were crucial factors that led to the end of his life.


Lonely and unhappy next to everyone around him

However, while his career was booming, his private life was not particularly successful. Therefore, it must be admitted that Marie Callas was absolutely right in saying that no real artist is actually happy. Art is indescribably beautiful but extremely cruel to one who transmits it to other people.

Despite his great career success, George Michael was extremely unhappy in his love life: his first known partner Anselmo was infected with HIV (of which he died), creating great stress and fear in George, since he suspected that his partner had transmitted this deadly disease to him. He spoke about it in one of the interviews, describing great fear and despair as he waited for the test results. His next partner was Kenny Goss, a notorious alcoholic and troublemaker who also had a negative effect on George, who himself struggled with addiction.

His last known partner, Fadi Fawaz, was a typical example of a person with a purely material interest in a relationship. George was a very rich man who could afford such a luxury, but in fact very unhappy as he never, through his life, had a quality and reliable person beside himself, someone who would positively influence him and rely on him. And this is exactly what Linden characters need the most.

Therefore, one should not be surprised by the fact that throughout his life, George has struggled with inexplicable sadness. At one time he used to make a positive use of it by making his big hits, but later, grief overcame and guided him.

The side effect of rapid career success at the expense of unlived adolescence did not bypass George, like many other stars, and manifested itself through experimentation with drugs, changes in sexual partners and psychoses. What was characteristic for George was his relatively rapid physical change, especially of his face, which was clearly a reflection of his inner condition. All his changing moods, stages of addiction, depression and confusion left a mark on his face. However, despite everything his smile always remained the same, like a child's, as his eyes grew sadder with time.


Soul and reincarnation

George Michael's soul before he was born in London in 1963 had a very traumatic event. The fetus with his soul ended up in the body of a woman who did not want to give birth to him and had an abortion. His karmic mission abruptly ended there, and continued after a year, this time in the body of his mother, Leslie. Because of this, he was extremely attached to his mother and had a very difficult time dealing with her death. It was this death that awakened in him the trauma of rejection and abandonment that he had difficulty coping with. A new birth (reincarnation) of his soul will occur in a small country where he will be born again as a man, but this time as a twin, his profession will be design, and in this life he will be realized through marriage and children. In the new life, George will finally meet his soulmate, a karmic partner, with whom he will accomplish what he has always wanted and never had - love.